The main Tan reunion events were a dinner last Saturday and a tour of historic sites on Sunday. The Chinese in general have strong migratory tendencies. While most of the reunion attendees lived in Singapore, there were also English, American and Australian visitors. This was my first opportunity to meet Lawrence Tan, one of my English third cousins, who has overseen the compilation of a genealogical database numbering over 900 individuals. I began trying to compile my own family history about four years ago and, while searching
Rootsweb for a different branch, stumbled on Lawrence’s data. I was able to reconcile my mother’s stories and recollections with the hard data that Lawrence had collected.
We were encouraged to wear traditional Peranakan dress to the dinner. I’d seen older women like my grandmother wear the
sarong kebaya (tight-fitting sarong and jacket) but neither my mother or I had ever worn this. The authentic outfit requires brooches and a belt (silver, to be really authentic) and small slippers. My grandmother’s jewellery was in Melbourne (oops!) and the sarong and slippers did not seem intended for serious walking or standing. So we compromised and wore kebaya and trousers.
I’d met or been told about many of my mother’s relatives when I was younger but had trouble remembering where they fit into the grand scheme. Lawrence brought along an eight-foot printout of the Tan Tock Seng family tree. The reunion organiser, Roney Tan, presented a talk on Tan Tock Seng and his sons and grandsons, and screened a documentary about Tan Tock Seng. TTS is most famous in Singapore for the hospital that bears his name. My mother has said that when she was young she would tell people that she was one of his descendants and would sometimes be rebuked for being too proud. In Australia I’ve sometimes been accused of crypto-aristocratic behaviour -- and this was before I was fully aware of how much of an impact Tan Tock Seng made on Singapore. But while the reunion might have been mostly about celebrating our ancestors, I also learned that many of my relatives are continuing his example of good works (as well as making money).
On the tour the following day, we visited: Tan Tock Seng’s grave; a temple partly established by him, the Thian Hock Keng; a temple partly established by one of his sons, the Po Chiak Keng Tan Si Chong Su; a huge house built by one of his grandsons; and of course the hospital. The CEO of the hospital took us on a tour of some of the wards and the main building. The Tan Si Chong Su and the hospital treated us like stars, which helped with the ego-swelling.
Overall the weekend was packed with meeting relatives and hearing lots of different people praise Tan Tock Seng. I don’t cope with large groups of people very well, and it would have been easier on my nerves to have had all this in smaller doses; but still it felt good to be part of a great and continuing family tradition.